Category: Self Improvement

Brilliant thinkers relish ambiguity, dull thinkers loathe it.

Brilliant thinkers are very comfortable with ambiguity – they welcome it. Routine thinkers like clarity and simplicity; they dislike ambiguity. There is a tendency in our society to reduce complex issues down to simple issues with obviously clear solutions. We see evidence of this in the tabloid press. There have been some terrible crimes committed in our cities. A violent offender received what... Read More--

Want to remember a list of items? Try taking a Virtual Journey

The virtual journey is a powerful and popular memory pegging method for remembering lists of items. You take an imaginary journey around a familiar route – say your house or road – and you attach the things you want to remember to the places along the way. Say for example you want to remember a sequence of key points for a speech you are giving at your daughter’s wedding. The first... Read More--

The so-called Law of Attraction is a Delusion

One of the biggest bandwagons that has rolled through the self-help community in recent years is the so-called Law of Attraction. This claims that you attract into your life whatever you think about. Before I explain why I believe that this is not a law, not true and not helpful let me differentiate the LoA from some similar but different self-help concepts that actually do work. Positive Thinking.... Read More--

10 Great Ways to Increase your Followers on Twitter

Some people use Twitter as a social network with a handful of friends and consequently do not want a large number of followers. Others use it to increase their influence and the awareness of their personal brand. For these people it is important to attract a large number of followers – and the right kind of followers. Here are some practical tips on how to gather a large number of suitable followers: 1.... Read More--

Nine Great ways to become a Very Boring Person

Can you choose whether you are an interesting person or a dull person? To some extent you can. There are things you can do to make your company and your conversation interesting and there are things you can do that will make you boring. If you want to be dull try the following list. If you want to be interesting do the opposite. 1. Talk a lot about yourself. Tell people about you and your life. Don’t... Read More--

How to Overcome the Roadblock of Procrastination

All action and no thinking is bad; so too is all thinking and no action. The search for perfection can easily lead to procrastination. Because we cannot conceive an ideal solution we keep searching and searching. We use one thinking tool after another and fall into paralysis by analysis. For most situations in life, there is a time for thought and a time for action. Here are some tips for overcoming... Read More--

Count your Reasons to be Cheerful

We tend to focus on our problems in life and to take for granted our blessings and achievements. It is natural that we think about the difficulties we face and the challenges we have to overcome but there is a real danger that when we do this we can become become weighed down with worry or negative feelings. It is good to step back for a moment from our day to day cares and to list all the things that... Read More--

Seven Things you should Stop Doing

You probably make lists of things to do and follow them through.  But what about the things you should stop doing?  Successful people do not do the following things but chances are you still do.  Make a decision to add these to your  ‘stop doing’ list. Making Excuses. Successful people do not blame others or make excuses or complain about their bad luck.  They take full responsibility... Read More--

How Good is your Judgment? Try these two questions.

Imagine this situation. You know a woman who has 8 children. Three of her children are deaf, two are blind and one is mentally retarded. She suffers from syphilis. Would you advise her to have no more children? If you learnt that she was pregnant would you recommend that she have an abortion? Now try this question. It is time to elect a new national leader. There are three candidates and here are fhe... Read More--

Spend More Time with People who will Challenge your view of the World.

‘You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with,’ says author Richard Koch. While this statement is not to be taken literally or mathematically it plainly contains a disturbingly large grain of truth. For most of us the people we choose to associate with reflect ourselves, our values, our backgrounds, our attitudes and our behaviours. Take a moment to write down... Read More--